Saturn and Relationship Issues
February 2011
No doubt, a lot of you are struggling with relationship issues right now.
That may be:
- work relationships- home-life relationships - love relationships- friendship relationships Saturn, the GREAT teacher / sense of responsibility is presently retrograding in the sign of Libra. Libra is about balance, harmony, peace and more than anything else – relationships.
Depending on where Saturn is presently sitting in your chart, determines what part of life the relationship issues abound.
If Saturn is presently going through your first house – it’s the relationship with self.
If Saturn is presently going through your fourth house – it’s family dynamics.
If Saturn is presently going through your seventh house – it’s often love relationship issues
If Saturn is presently going through your tenth house – it’s work issues.
In some way, shape or form – it’s all about relationships.
One of the big relationship issues we often struggle with in life – is relationship with self. I always come back to a Dr. Phil comment: “We teach people how to treat us.”
If you are feeling anger in any way, over a particular issue, stop for a moment and ask: “Why does this make me feel angry?” Try to step outside of the emotionalism that surrounds it.
- Is the person not living up to your expectations?
- Is the person letting you down
- Is the person mis-treating you in some way?
- Hoping things will get better…
Let’s look at each of those in sequence:
Is the person not living up to your expectations?
This is a common issue it seems in relationships. Unfortunately, when we put OUR expectations on OTHER people….we set ourselves up for disappointment.
First and foremost, people do not have to live up to our expectations! And, most times, they don’t.
Often, this also comes down to a lack of communication. We ‘expect’ the other person to be ‘psychic’ and know what we want them to do! Express to them how it makes you feel, when they act this way (without being judgemental)…and ask if they understand…and would they be willing to change that behaviour.
Is the person letting you down?
This again, comes back to expectations. Sometimes we actually have a ‘need’ that the other individual simply cannot supply. Depending on your astrological chart, you may be a person who massive needs hugs and coaching. The other individual may not have that ability according to their charts. It may be very easy for you to give comfort and care-giving to someone. It may not be easy for the other person.
That would be as difficult as asking an elephant to act like a cat.
Sometimes people want to ‘fix’ us to be that way. If we are not like that…we cannot be ‘fixed’ to be like that on a permanent basis.
From that perspective you then have to consider is that something you truly NEED in your life! Then comes decision-time. Always remember….no ONE person can supply 100% of what we need in life. What will you settle for? 80%? 60%?
Is the person mis-treating you in some way?
This totally comes from Self-Respect and Self-Esteem. People will only mis-treat you, if you allow it. Confront it immediately…and make a stand.
If someone shows me dis-respect…..I immediately address it. I do not dis-respect others, therefore I will not accept dis-respect. Often, by simple conversation, it can be repaired. Most times, people have no intention to show ‘dis-respect’….but it allows people to know where you stand. Self-respect and Self-esteem of self……opens the door for others to respect you. If you show self dis-respect…..it opens the doorway for others to do the same.
When you allow people to dis-respect you, often we feel anger for allowing that to happen but we feel it’s too late. It is never too late to address an issue!
Again I say, as a society, we expect people to be psychic. If someone has hurt your feelings, tell them…let them know….give them a chance to say: “I’m sorry”
Hoping things will get better…..
I once read……that if we continue to do what we’ve always done….and expect a different result – that’s a sign of insanity. <ggls>. If things are not addressed…things will not change. If things are addressed…and still there is no change….your on a downhill slide to anger.
Always remember in a relationship, people are ‘reacting’ to you. Look inside – what are you creating that causes this relationship to look like this?
Do you truly know what you are looking for in a relationship? Your chart gives you all of those answers!
Saturn started to retrograde on Jan 26th………..you have until June 13th to figure this all out - - Good Luck!!!!
Holly Poole Professional Astrologer (902) 483-1434 